How To Set Goals In Life

What makes some people achieve their goals and others give up on their goals? Is it the determination and drive that a person has or is there more to it? I have an audible account (shout out to audible, they make it so much easier to learn and grow on the go!) and I recently downloaded the book: Self Disciple- Develop good habits. Achieve your goals. By Jennifer Alison. It is a great book! I learned so much. In Chapter 1 it talks about 7 steps to setting a goal.

Step 1 – Take Baby Steps

Instead of coming up with a huge goal that you can accomplish in a few months or years, break down your goal to smaller bite sized pieces. When you think of all the small steps you need to take, it will help you stay focused and positive.

Step 2 – Set Realistic Goals

This was a big one for me, I tend to have my head in the clouds when it comes to goals and I have big goals but they aren’t realistic with what else I have going on. Life is constantly about balancing all that you have going on, similar to the guy at the circus that is spinning multiple plates at one time. If you stop giving one area your time and attention, the plate falls and breaks on the floor. Factor in how much time and energy you can put towards your goal at the stage of life you are in.

Step 3 – Keep Your Plate Organized

This was another “ah ha” moment for me. I tend to half accomplish things, when I am washing the dishes and I am halfway done, I usually stop and go start to do something else, the same goes for other areas of my life. I tend to run around and do this, run around and do that and then I am exhausted because I was running around but I also feel like I didn’t get much of anything accomplished. So I am working on prioritizing what tasks are most important and staying organized.

Step 4 – Do What YOU Want To Do

Life and people are going to constantly pull you in different directions and it is easy to get distracted helping others versus helping ourselves and checking things off our list. When you are setting goals, you have to keep in mind your morals and values and not compromise those for anyone.

Step 5 – Believe In Yourself!

When I feel overwhelmed, I stop and think about all the things that I have already accomplished. Sometimes I feel like my to do list keeps getting longer and longer but when I take a minute to think about all I have accomplished that day, week or month it puts things in a different perspective. We are all human and have good days and bad days. The more we recognize our small accomplishments, the more it will keep us going to achieve and doing more.

Step 6 – Resist the temptation to go ALL IN.

I often get very excited about change that I tell myself I am going to do x, y and z. I give it my all for a few days and then I am worn out. It is important to give yourself a break when you need one and like the age-old tale of the rabbit and turtle, the turtle wins the race because he keeps going with each step you are moving closer to your goal. Moderation is the key to success in achieving your goals.

Step 7 – Reward Yourself

Little rewards along the way will help you realize all that you’ve accomplished and how far you’ve come. Make sure you take time to take a break to recharge. What do you love to do?

Action Steps

With this in mind, what are some goals that you’ve been putting off or you just can’t seem to get past a certain point? Start now in changing your life! Life is too short to wait for the perfect time or opportunity, you can make a difference and change TODAY!

Cant Hurt Me Book

I am on a journey to become a better version of myself. I just finished listening to the audiobook Cant Hurt Me by David Goggins and it totally revolutionized the things I thought I was capable of. My brother initially told me of the book and told me he was going to download it(we share an audible account) but then read some of the reviews and changed his mind because a lot of people said that he “curses too much”. A few weeks went by and he talked to someone else and they said it was definitely worth the read so he downloaded it. As he was listening to it, he kept telling me about how wonderful of a book it was and told me that I needed to start listening to it as soon as possible. When I started listening, I was enthralled with it. Every day I looked forward to listening to it and learning more about his story. I was truly captivated by all that he had gone through in his life and amazed at all he had overcome! These are all of the things I have learned from his book.

It Doesnt Matter How You Start

David Goggins had a rough childhood to say the least. His father was very abusive, physically, verbally and emotionally. His father would constantly look for anything that he did wrong to teach him a lesson. The chapters that detailed the abuse of his father were very hard for me to hear, often made me sick to my stomach and many times I had to pause the audiobook to take a break from what I was hearing. The sad reality of his story is there are many children whose reality that is and often times when something “looks” one way, the reality is often very different. Through hearing the rest of his story, it made me realize that life is tough. So many times we go through really hard things and at the time it is hard for us to see that it will get better and we can either allow that hard thing to make us or break us, its up to us.

It Doesnt Matter How Many Times You Fail

David Goggins went through 3 hell weeks for Navy Seal trainings. A hell week is where you are up for 5.5 days completing physically demanding task all day long. Listening to this part of the book really made me realize that physically we can do pretty much anything. David also attempted to break the world record for the number of pull ups and the first two times he tried he failed but each time he failed, that led him to reevaulate the things he did wrong and succeed on the thirst attempt. Life is all about trying, failing and adjusting. So many people try and fail and then give up.

It Doesnt Matter How Physically Unfit You Are

Once David decided that he wanted more from his life and was going to enroll in Navy Seal school, he had to lose more than 100 pounds in 3 months! Thats the equivalent of 33 pounds a month. (Here I am working on losing 10 pounds) Anyways, his dedication and determination led him to lose the weight. He was constantly running, biking and working out in order to accomplish his goal.

What do you want from your life?

Life is all about what you make it. I often wonder what sets “successful” people apart from the rest? The answer I believe is that they keep going no matter what. Life is hard, we all go through our fair share of failures, setbacks, struggles but the more you reflect on what happened and learn how you can improve the more prepared you are for the next obstacle. Cant Hurt Me is truly an amazing story of strength, resilence, perseverance and victory. It will definitely challenge you to reflect on your life and ask yourself if you are truly living at your maximum potential.

If you are truly ready for a change in your life, READ this book. Here is the link to the book on Amazon. You owe it to yourself to change your life!