How To Set Goals In Life

What makes some people achieve their goals and others give up on their goals? Is it the determination and drive that a person has or is there more to it? I have an audible account (shout out to audible, they make it so much easier to learn and grow on the go!) and I recently downloaded the book: Self Disciple- Develop good habits. Achieve your goals. By Jennifer Alison. It is a great book! I learned so much. In Chapter 1 it talks about 7 steps to setting a goal.

Step 1 – Take Baby Steps

Instead of coming up with a huge goal that you can accomplish in a few months or years, break down your goal to smaller bite sized pieces. When you think of all the small steps you need to take, it will help you stay focused and positive.

Step 2 – Set Realistic Goals

This was a big one for me, I tend to have my head in the clouds when it comes to goals and I have big goals but they aren’t realistic with what else I have going on. Life is constantly about balancing all that you have going on, similar to the guy at the circus that is spinning multiple plates at one time. If you stop giving one area your time and attention, the plate falls and breaks on the floor. Factor in how much time and energy you can put towards your goal at the stage of life you are in.

Step 3 – Keep Your Plate Organized

This was another “ah ha” moment for me. I tend to half accomplish things, when I am washing the dishes and I am halfway done, I usually stop and go start to do something else, the same goes for other areas of my life. I tend to run around and do this, run around and do that and then I am exhausted because I was running around but I also feel like I didn’t get much of anything accomplished. So I am working on prioritizing what tasks are most important and staying organized.

Step 4 – Do What YOU Want To Do

Life and people are going to constantly pull you in different directions and it is easy to get distracted helping others versus helping ourselves and checking things off our list. When you are setting goals, you have to keep in mind your morals and values and not compromise those for anyone.

Step 5 – Believe In Yourself!

When I feel overwhelmed, I stop and think about all the things that I have already accomplished. Sometimes I feel like my to do list keeps getting longer and longer but when I take a minute to think about all I have accomplished that day, week or month it puts things in a different perspective. We are all human and have good days and bad days. The more we recognize our small accomplishments, the more it will keep us going to achieve and doing more.

Step 6 – Resist the temptation to go ALL IN.

I often get very excited about change that I tell myself I am going to do x, y and z. I give it my all for a few days and then I am worn out. It is important to give yourself a break when you need one and like the age-old tale of the rabbit and turtle, the turtle wins the race because he keeps going with each step you are moving closer to your goal. Moderation is the key to success in achieving your goals.

Step 7 – Reward Yourself

Little rewards along the way will help you realize all that you’ve accomplished and how far you’ve come. Make sure you take time to take a break to recharge. What do you love to do?

Action Steps

With this in mind, what are some goals that you’ve been putting off or you just can’t seem to get past a certain point? Start now in changing your life! Life is too short to wait for the perfect time or opportunity, you can make a difference and change TODAY!

Cant Hurt Me Book

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I am on a journey to become a better version of myself. I just finished listening to the audiobook Cant Hurt Me by David Goggins and it totally revolutionized the things I thought I was capable of. My brother initially told me of the book and told me he was going to download it(we share an audible account) but then read some of the reviews and changed his mind because a lot of people said that he “curses too much”. A few weeks went by and he talked to someone else and they said it was definitely worth the read so he downloaded it. As he was listening to it, he kept telling me about how wonderful of a book it was and told me that I needed to start listening to it as soon as possible. When I started listening, I was enthralled with it. Every day I looked forward to listening to it and learning more about his story. I was truly captivated by all that he had gone through in his life and amazed at all he had overcome! These are all of the things I have learned from his book.

It Doesnt Matter How You Start

David Goggins had a rough childhood to say the least. His father was very abusive, physically, verbally and emotionally. His father would constantly look for anything that he did wrong to teach him a lesson. The chapters that detailed the abuse of his father were very hard for me to hear, often made me sick to my stomach and many times I had to pause the audiobook to take a break from what I was hearing. The sad reality of his story is there are many children whose reality that is and often times when something “looks” one way, the reality is often very different. Through hearing the rest of his story, it made me realize that life is tough. So many times we go through really hard things and at the time it is hard for us to see that it will get better and we can either allow that hard thing to make us or break us, its up to us.

It Doesnt Matter How Many Times You Fail

David Goggins went through 3 hell weeks for Navy Seal trainings. A hell week is where you are up for 5.5 days completing physically demanding task all day long. Listening to this part of the book really made me realize that physically we can do pretty much anything. David also attempted to break the world record for the number of pull ups and the first two times he tried he failed but each time he failed, that led him to reevaulate the things he did wrong and succeed on the thirst attempt. Life is all about trying, failing and adjusting. So many people try and fail and then give up.

It Doesnt Matter How Physically Unfit You Are

Once David decided that he wanted more from his life and was going to enroll in Navy Seal school, he had to lose more than 100 pounds in 3 months! Thats the equivalent of 33 pounds a month. (Here I am working on losing 10 pounds) Anyways, his dedication and determination led him to lose the weight. He was constantly running, biking and working out in order to accomplish his goal.

What do you want from your life?

Life is all about what you make it. I often wonder what sets “successful” people apart from the rest? The answer I believe is that they keep going no matter what. Life is hard, we all go through our fair share of failures, setbacks, struggles but the more you reflect on what happened and learn how you can improve the more prepared you are for the next obstacle. Cant Hurt Me is truly an amazing story of strength, resilence, perseverance and victory. It will definitely challenge you to reflect on your life and ask yourself if you are truly living at your maximum potential.


Live your healthiest life

I know its only July but I am already thinking about the new year and what is to come. With 5 more months of the year, it forces me to evaluate what I have done this year to create a better version of myself. These are things I realized in my life, little changes that make a big difference that I needed to make in order to live my healthiest life.

Drink more water!

This is sort of no brainer for most of it. We know we need to drink more water but the thought of it is sometimes daunting. I have been carrying around a water bottle that hold 32 ounces and my goal is to fill it up twice a day. Sometimes I reach that goal, sometimes I don’t but I take it day by day. When I drink more water, I’ve noticed that I eat less and feel fuller throughout the day.

Eat more vegetables!

Ive always thought I was a pretty healthy eater and I eat a good mixture of fruits, vegetables, protein and carbs but the more I paid attention to my diet, the more I realized that I eat a lot of carbs and protein but not enough vegetables. Just this small change has made a huge difference as well. When I do eat more vegetables, I feel fuller and more satisfied throughout the day as well.

Become more active!

This is something that we all know we should be doing but actually finding the time to exercise/go for a walk or workout is sometimes more of a fantasy than a reality in our busy lives. By the time I get home from work, it is time to make dinner, then get ready for bed and do it all again the next day. I know myself and I know that if my goal is too large, I won’t complete it. (I used to have a goal of working out for 1 hour a day but ended up never working out) I started working out for 5 full minutes a day for 4 days a week, not much right. I didn’t feel like I was doing much or making any progress but I had to keep telling myself, working out for 5 minutes a day is better than not working out at all. The more I worked out, the more I created the habit of working out, I increased my workouts by 5 minutes every 2 weeks and now I am working out for 20 minutes at a time.

Find something you enjoy and do it!

One day someone asked me what I like to do for fun and I couldn’t come up with an answer I was a new mom at the time and all I did was take care of my baby. I didn’t go out and have fun, go out with friends and spend time doing the things that I enjoyed. After that day, it really made me think and put into a different perspective my life and what is important to me. The more I thought about my life the more I realized how off balance it was and that is something that I constantly ask myself now. How is my balance? Am I finding time for the important things in my life. I can say now that some of my hobbies are being outside, exploring and doing things I’ve never done. I like rock climbing, snow and water skiing, wakeboarding, camping, hiking and walking.

You can change your life!

Life is all about the little choices we make daily. The little habits that seem insignificant are important. Your life is yours to create. Today is the day to start working towards the live you’ve always wanted. It starts with one step in the right direction. The first step is always the hardest but when you get the momentum, it helps propel you forward. Don’t wait to change your life, don’t wait for a new year, a new job, a new opportunity or a new relationship. You are capable! You can do it! What are you going to do today to make a better tomorrow for yourself?

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Thank you for taking the time to check out my site! I really believe that this will help you live a life that you’ve always dreamed about. Life is all about the little things in our life that we choose to do on a daily basis that really creates changes. Working out 5 minutes a day 5 times a week is a great start to build a habit.


My Goal

I have always been passionate about helping people. I truly want to help others live to their fullest potential. I know this is a big statement because many times people say they want something different but are not ready to take the steps to make that a reality. Trust me, I’ve been one of those people as well. Its much easier to want something than to actually do it but you are the only person that can change your life so why wait. Life is so great, there is so much we can accomplish and do when we really focus on what it is we want!



I want to help people because it is my passion. I love learning about people, hearing their stories, their experiences. It was always my dream to become a psychologist/counselor. Sometimes we need someone to talk to in order to process our life and why things panned out the way they did, someone to give us a new perspective and once we have that we are unstoppable. Life is too short to not live to your fullest potential!


My Goal

The purpose of my site is to help others live a meaningful(we all have different definitions) life. I want you to be able to look back a year from now and really see a difference in your quality, happiness and relationships in your life.

If you ever need a hand or have any questions, feel free to leave them below and I will be more than happy to help you out.

All the best,

Michelle 🙂


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